Change...what a scary word. BUT it's life. We are constantly changing and either you jump on that train or you let it pass you by. My world this year has had many changes but I would say one of the biggest and most important to me is that I have put myself first. Now I'm not saying I don't put 110% of my energy towards my kids and my hubby but I do that keeping in mind that I need to take care of myself in the process.
Us moms have it tough.
We are responsible for molding tiny humans. And it's the best job in the world.
But it's also very tough.
And it's also not your ONLY job.
And it's also not your ONLY title.
Just because we are moms now doesn't mean that we have to live and breathe our kids 24/7.
Now don't freak out on me here....
Some moms are all about their kids ALL THE TIME.
AND THAT'S OKAY.
Me, personally, I need that "me time."
I need to be away from my kids sometimes.
GASP! I said it!
I need to go out with my girlfriends every once in awhile.
Does it mean I love them or my husband any less??
ABSOLUTELY NOT!
It means I need time to talk to my girlfriends without being interrupted to play cars or to get someone an apple juice, or to turn on "mimmmmmy" (Mickey)
AND THAT'S OKAY.
I enjoy that little bit of time away from my kids.
I love them with every inch of my being, but it is not a crime, NOR A BAD THING, to want time to yourself.
It's not being selfish.
You're still a woman. Even if you are a mom.
That will never change.
And some of you may not agree with "me time"...
Some of you may not even need it.
AND THAT'S OKAY.
I do.
It makes me a better mom.
A better wife.
And a better friend.
I try to get some kind of work out in everyday. I run, I go to Hot Yoga, I take a walk. Something for me. Something that makes me feel good about Jenn.
I get my hair done once every 6 weeks. For 2-3 hours.
I have girls night out occasionally
I have an annual Chama weekend trip that is FABULOUS!
I am begining to run in 5K races on the weekends and love it.
I'm able to do this because I have the love and support of my husband, who knows I need it.
I'm able to do this because I have the love and support of my husband, who knows I need it.
AND THAT'S OKAY.
None of this makes me love my family any less because I choose to make myself a priority.
It doesn't make me a "bad mom".
It makes me someone who cares about how I feel and how I look.
AND THAT'S OKAY.
You can sit and argue until you're blue in the face about "how much time with your kids is best", but the thing is, everyone does what works FOR THEM. FOR THEIR FAMILY.
And what works for yours, may not work for others.
AND THAT'S OKAY.
I found that the key word in all of this is balance. I balance my family and myself. If I'm going on a walk I let Noah ride his bike that way we are both out doing something phyical. We went to the trampoline park...I got my workout in and Noah got to have a fun time with his mommy and cousin.
It doesn't make you ANY LESS of an amazing mother to WANT to do these things.
You still love your kids.
You still love your husband.
But sometimes we just need time FOR US.
AND THAT'S OKAY.
Do what makes you happy.
Truly happy.
And don't apologize for it.
Sometimes a step back is good for the soul.
And guess what....
THAT'S OKAY!
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| Before/After Picture...MY Change :) |
